Roy Graff

Trainee Psychotherapist + Relationship and Life Coach

Conscious, autonomous relationships with an abundance mindset

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Why Open Relating?

Being raised on a diet of monogamous romantic fantasies, most people develop a mythological sense of what healthy relationships look like. Once we recognise love as separate from 'meeting needs', we are on our path to a better way of loving ourselves and others. We can design our relationships in any way that makes sense to us and our partners.

If what society says we should be doing feels unnatural, then do it differently. Nothing is 'default' or 'natural', except what feels natural to us. When there is an internal struggle, it is often because we inherit a set of values and expectations from our community, family and tribe that are at odds with what we feel inside.

Open Relating is about creating and maintaining conscious, connected and autonomous relationships, regardless of their dynamic and how many people are involved. Doing so requires first an honest unflinching look at our own vulnerabilities, fears, needs, wants and desires.

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Relationship Coaching

Relationship success looks different depending on who you are, what beliefs you have and how much autonomy you need. Together for ever after isn't always the best outcome. Moving in together isn't always the best outcome. Relationship success is personal and varied. I work with individuals, couples and polycules.

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Are you looking for an extremely open minded, non judgmental therapist? One that is supportive and affirming lf all genders, orientations, sexualities and relationship dynamics? A therapist that has lived an unconventional life, taken risks and experienced extreme highs and lows? I am trained in Psychosynthesis Psychotherapy and seeing clients in person in London, UK. Some online therapy spaces are available.

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The Coaching Club

Join a small group for weekly drop-in sessions.
The coaching club offers advice as well as peer support. It is an affordable and accessible way to have coaching when private sessions are not suitable.
It is free to try and payment is on a sliding scale which means you pay what you can.
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Coaching Sessions

Keeping your individual identity and autonomy is important for healthy and sustainable relationships.

I can help you to manage jealousy, create healthy boundaries and communicate better with your partner/s.
My approach is inclusive of all orientations, genders and dynamics and is trauma-informed.

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Workshops, videos and audio content

Sign-up to the next live workshop or check out my pre-recorded webinars about relationship dynamics, jealousy, compersion and related topics.
More videos are added in the Webinars page on a regular basis.
Some are available for a small price, and many are free.
Donations are welcome.

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Latest articles

Why did I choose solo-polyamory for myself?

What is solo-polyamory? A custom designed relationship dynamic that centres my relationship with myself. I am making a conscious decision not to seek out or work towards having a primary and/or nesting partner. Each person may practice solo-polyamory differently and the only constant is that you have a primary relationship with self. Materially, I am …

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Relationship Confessions – anonymous

If you could say anything to your partner without fear of hurting them, or fear they will reject you, what would you say? If you could ask for anything of the person you most want to be with, when all obstacles were removed, what would it be? I am collecting anonymous shares from people who …

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